Anal douching isn't something we talk about much in our community and we aren't given many opportunities to learn about it. My high school coach taught sex ed. He said Keep it in your pants, boys. A good bath will clean up the exterior of your booty enough for anal sex to be bacteria free — at least on the outside. Silicone lube is messy and stays slick forever, meaning it can sometimes present clean-up problems (avoid touching door handles), but it works fine with latex and non-latex condoms and keeps your ass lubed up longer than water-based lube.
The best way for anal sex is for the bottom to use a femidom, coated with non-irritating water-based lubricant and insert that into the asshole with a little round (non-tearing) dildo. When having anal sex, the penis has to pass through these two sphincters. Because the anus and vagina are fairly close together, your man can simply aim a little lower for anal sex.
Anal sex can also refer to other forms of anal pleasure, like anal penetration with fingers or a toy, or oral anal stimulation, aka rimming. Second, keep in mind that after the enema is about 1.5 inches inside, you won't feel sharp pain — that's because your rectum doesn't have this type of pain receptor.
Using the lube is as simple as applying it directly onto your partner or toy before you start to play, there is no need to be sparing here. And anal sex does require communication, will involve condoms (most of the time) and it can be a bit messier. If you don't want to be bothered by shit or bits of shit during anal sex, you can give yourself an enema, which means flushing out your rectum with water.
If you are repeatedly having uncomfortable sex and your hole feels like it is burning or badly irritated every time you use latex condoms, try a non-latex condom made of Polyisoprene (read: not condoms made from lambskin, which does not protect against STIs, just pregnancy).
Unfortunately, and somewhat mystifyingly, this survey did not track the prevalence of anal sex between male same-sex partners, but rather grouped anal and oral intercourse together, nor did it address anal sex at all between female same-sex partners.
If you are new to anal play, desensitizing yourself to what how to do anal sex you are actually feeling could result in injury that you will not be aware of until later on. Before attempting anal sex, be sure to communicate with your partner to establish ground rules and make sure she or he is participating of her own free will.
In addition, regardless of the sex of each partner, after the penis has been in a partner's anus, it should never be inserted into a partner's mouth without changing the condom or washing the penis off first. He's thrilled at being the first one inside her rectum and thanks to how she was preparing for anal sex with her toy it's nice and easy for him to fill her from behind and begin their butt fucking adventure.
Lastly, a lot of people discover that after a couple of awesome anal play sessions, watching a lover put on a glove becomes foreplay. Latex gloves fit best and are often less expensive, but some people are sensitive to latex, especially for anal play. For myself, I've found that most water-based lubes cause a slight burning feeling when I'm getting fucked, and I don't get that with silicon lubes.
The reason so many people never want to try anal sex with their partner is because they think it will be messy, unsexy or even unsafe Follow these guidelines during your anal sex preparation and you will never have to worry about it being messy or unsexy.